Single and searching at 40 something. That is a statement and a half. I have been on one hell of a journey ladies. That journey of "oh shit" I'm single and I'm over 40 years old WTF! Dating at my age??? oh my god. I'm out of shape, I look in the mirror and do not recognize this woman staring back at me. Where has the time gone? Oh, it's right there on my face as I have aged. Where did the woman I used to be GO?
That must be how you found me! Your on the same journey? You find yourself single, after years with a partner, your over 40 feeling like your going to be alone forever? Your over weight, out of shape feeling horrible about yourself? You might even have kids you adore but think damn….who's going to want ME & my kids at my age…STOP thinking like that right now.
When it first happens, our long term relationship is over…. We are shocked, then pissed the fuck off right? Hurt, sad, sometimes feel hopeless we go through so many emotions. We blame him, or others, if he cheated we blame that chick he cheated with. It really is a ridiculous cycle we put ourselves through. TRUST ME I have been there. After a lot of work on myself thankfully I am no longer in that darkness. I have a better way to deal with that kind of shit.
That is defiantly why I am here. I am here to help you, with my experience. You have found me for a reason. People cross our paths for 2 reasons. Either they are a lesson or a blessing, I want to be a blessing for you. No I am not a physiologist, I am a realist. I love to help other women become warrior goddesses, become strong and unbreakable. I am however not going to sugar coat things for you. You can't sprinkle sugar on shit and call it a cup cake ladies.I am a real woman like you. With real life shit I had to overcome. You know that kind of real life shit that can break you and almost kill you inside.
My story is like many of yours. Man meets woman, they hook up and try to build a life. At first it's great, it's fun, & exciting. You date, you move in together, you live like married people yet your not married! Maybe you got married I did not. Our life got set in a spiral of daily doing. We even worked together at the same company but he worked the night shift for a very long time. I worked my way up the ranks to City Manager, made him my night manager and life was that daily grind. We never traveled. We did not go out much. We really didn't do normal things couples do. When I say normal things I mean things like have spontaneous sex in the kitchen, we didn't do anything spontaneous. The most we did was go out to eat, hang out with friends, and the occasional movie. looking back it was boring as hell and if not for the career I had which kept me busy and consumed I might have realized earlier on I was in a dead end relationship with a dead end dude.
When I first met him, I was a gym rat. I was getting into what was the best shape of my life. I was in the gym faithfully every other day. Once he and I got together I started going less and less because he was actually manipulating me thru my blind eyes not to go to the gym. Looking back I see how fucked up and manipulative that was. He should have been encouraging me to stay in shape, better yet his big ass should have been going with me. He had a belly on him that was pretty big even for the big dude he was, very unhealthy. I actually started dating him because he was very sweet to me. Took good care of me, as in how he treated me not financially. Always a gentleman, always looking out for my comfort and safety. Before him I was that chick that only dated men I thought were sexy, bad boy's, thuggish rugged sexy fuckers lol, this time I decided to go on how he treated me and not on his looks….THAT was a HUGE mistake because I passed on passion & chemistry. I thought he had a good heart…im essence I guess he did have a good heart but was sometimes driven by bad intentions?
Single after he cheated, yes I caught him, yes my instincts were dead on. We had just moved into a pretty expensive place, I was not working in my career field I was actually building an online coaching business. This business actually, when this all happened so I didn't even have that career paycheck to keep me safe. I did not have a "conventional j.o.b" you talk about scared! I was terrified.
I was also HUGE & trying to lose weight. That was how I found Beachbody & my Beachbody family. I was so overweight I was constantly embarrassed of how heavy I had gotten. My ex was a chubby chaser. No, I'm serious he loved big girls. So much so that his entire porn collection was…well….all very big women. I actually never could get big enough for him.
While going thru the breakup I had to live with him, we were both on the lease of our new place we moved in September 8th I caught him cheating October 16th if you can love that. I couldn't even put him out of our house. I did kick his ass out of our bed and into the spare bedroom but still, I couldn't even begin to heal or have peace I still had to look at his stupid fucking face for another 8 MONTHS!
While he was in and out of our house, spending nights here and with the woman he cheated on me with I decided FUCK THIS, I am taking my life back right now. I didn't give a damn if he was here or there I was going to do me!
My Beachbody family was a major positive influence and resource for the strength I needed to pick myself up and keep it moving forward. Personal development is a big part of helping yourself, or making small changes to become a better version of yourself. It is huge in changing you in area's you need improvement mentally and physically. We are constantly changing and learning but what we absorb in the process needs to be positive and helpful.
Loosing weight for me was not just about the physical appearance aspect. I mean don't get me wrong I have a sexy side to me that I love to let loose. When your working out and your body is becoming more shapely and toned GIRL nothing feels sexier and it shows in all you do. The way you dress, the way you carry yourself and soon people around you start to notice because it effects your confidence and your mental state. for me it was more about the mental and physical health as a combination. When you workout the physical movements do something to strengthen not just your body but your mind. Ladies this is huge too….we spend THOUSANDS of dollars a year on anti aging creams and serums for our skin, there is no better fountain of youth than exercise. I will get into that with you at another time but it is 100% true.
What I want to make very clear right now is, YOU can get past this painful time in your life. You can feel good about yourself again, you have the power inside you right now to MOVE ON and get your inner goddess to come to the surface. All you have to do is reach out to me I am right here waiting to help you! Click the contact me tab and send me a message or connect with me on facebook and send me a message either way I am here for you! Lets get you moving forward.
